A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation
with the bricks that others throw at him or her.
David Brinkley said this. I am still trying out this aide position, and it can be so hard. He started throwing rocks at me, little pebble stones or nuts, etc. and I can't do anything - force, touch, pull, help him at all. He needs love, lots and lots of patience, but I try THEIR method and don't know if it does any good. Then I have personal drama of feeling judged by others. I don't know why, but Congo really changes people. You see, it either makes you more tense & stressed (plenty of reason here!) or it makes you more relaxed and able to go with the flow.
I was in a friend's house recently and she showed us her African statue that my friend said had a perfect portrayal of the JOY that is Congo...
and the depression that Congo has as well. My mom bought a little table figurine that shares something similar. In order to relax here, I exercise, swim/lay by the pool, read, pray&journal, play piano/flute/CDs, talk out my stress, and, well, color. Yeah I know, silly huh? But it really helps with the whole "therapy thing!"
So I ask, why do we judge? I usually excused it with, "Well that's all we know is their sin, their problem, their weakness" when we see it in them, we think it makes us look better when in reality it makes us look worse.
But, when I judge, I usually judge those who judge, then I'm going one step further in not helping, am I?! I get lectures here & there, or I am too sensitive when someone acts like they were just joking, or I am too worried about what they are thinking of me.

When in reality not many people are thinking about you as often as you think they are!
"Be ashamed to die until you have scored a victory for mankind." Dr. TP Kalogris